How easy it is to ‘not digest’ a successful woman!

Just ask yourself…can you really achieve success merely by sleeping with those your work is concerned with? Is success that easy?

I don’t know why do people blame those successful names? Why do people say, “are yaar…that lady has slept with so many guys and this is how she got all this”. Firstly, why do people blame a successful  woman only and why not a successful man? I have never heard someone saying, “hey I know how Shahrukh has become King Khan…he has slept around with so many women”…I have never ever heard such remarks.

There are people, both men and women who just cannot digest a successful woman. They cannot relate with her just because she is a female.

And those of you who really think that in order to be successful, you really have to please someone in bed…then just try it out! Believe me, you won’t be good even in bed. Just try it out…!!!

Now, lets come to another point...

What’s actually wrong in sleeping with some guy or girl in order to please him or her and get few things done. In here, definitely I am not at all imposing myself over you and you can always comment on this subject. All of us have our own personal views. Nothing is good or bad in the world we live. All depends on how we percieve different things around us.

Ya…coming back to the point. What is actually wrong is to force yourself over someone, to rape, to harass, to blackmail, to hurt….

To sleep with some person in complete agreement with each other is not at all wrong. It’s a deal…right! You are sleeping with that person if you are in love with that person or you know that if you will sleep with that person, certain things of yours will be done…and that person is also aware about the same, so what’s wrong in it. You know what…what is dirty is that when you ask someone to be in bed with you as a pre-condition for certaing things and you don’t fulfill your promise…you just get away after playing around with that person. That person slept with you thinking that you will also do certain favours in return…and you conveniently get away. Now…how filthy is that!!!

So, what I am saying is that when people achieve what they want to achieve, it is BIG!!! Not everyboy can do that, no matter whether you have slept with thousands of people, thousands of time. And believe me, even if you know that there is a person who can help you if you sleep with that person, IT IS JUST NOT EASY TO SLEEP LIKE THAT…YOU NEED GUTS!

Sex is an extreeeemely personal affair! Who had with whom…and how they had…and how many times they had…is just not anyone else’s business except those involved.

Since in our society, our brains are not trained to digest the success of a woman, we put everything on the ALMIGHTY SEX!!! Fine, if it is very very very necessary to blame someone, since we have to poke our nose and our fingers and various other things in other’s lives, why not blame that person who asked for sexual favours?  

…lacking the sense of belongingness to that nude panorama which saddens and scares me…

Yesterday, I went to railway station with my husband and a very close friend. We had to drop her husband for Mumbai. At the same time, another friend was also there to see off his family, leaving for Nagpur. So, we dropped my friend’s husband and went to meet that family. The meeting was great. We were happy to meet each other. But, right from the time we parked our car till we came back in an hour’s time, I was oozing with fearfulness and sadness.

There were people sleeping around at the place where we parked our car.

I am an Indian and have gone through such sights a lot of time.

I should have been habituated as yet, but I did not and could not. They all were spread with such freedom and carelessness as if that parking space belonged to them only. I felt as a trespasser. I felt sad about those people who have no perfect space to sleep. And then I entered the enquiry area where I have to check my every step in order not to step over any human being sleeping there. Same there, that space as well seemed to belong to them. I was the trespasser. It saddened me to the core. I don’t know why I don’t get used to it, like other people do. I don’t know why I can’t live comfortably with the fact that, ya…mine is not a country where everyone is blessed with abundance.

I know, while going through such a naked panorama, I can always thank God for placing me on the other side of the world, where I can be easily spoilt with choices. But, at very fewer times has it happened that I have expressed my gratitude to the Ultimate Power. What happens often is that I start feeling sad and I actually have to control that part of my brain which is almost always ready to pour out.

What happens to them when they are not well? And, it’s a vicious circle. Since they don’t get good food, they become unwell and they remain unwell because they do not get food and medicines. Where do poor women take bath? How rough and unhygienic that fabric must be which they employ, when those women are down? Where do those couples make out? What do those people do in life?

Are they happy?

Or, is it true to infinite limits, that HAPPINESS LIES IN YOUR MIND…ONLY???

Or, is it that I MUST REMAIN HAPPY TO INFINITE LIMITS BECAUSE I AM BLESSED (IN CERTAIN WAYS)?

Anyways, as I was walking my way to the platform, various eyes were eying me. Their poverty saddened me but at the same time, it scared me as well.

I could see wheel chairs.

I could see those begging eyes.

I could see bodies draped in scraps.

I could feel the untold stories.

I could smell that lack of everything.

I could feel the sadness inside me.

I could feel the fear inside me.

I could feel the world around me.

Among those must be various minds and souls who are frustrated and cannot bear it anymore.

There was a middle-aged lady draped in bright orange synthetic saree. Her skinny structure and large sunken dark black eyes spoke a lot about the thirst for various materials desired by her. Her head moved according to my movement. I was shaken to the core. I felt that she might rush towards me and scratch me. Definitely, she won’t get any material from me just by scratching me. But, she could definitely receive some kind of solace. I won’t call it sadistic pleasure. Never. Because I am in absolute agreement with her act.

Then, as I moved forward towards the train where my friend and his family were waiting, there was a man, in his thirties, in off-white kind-of-dirty shirt and trousers (they must have been white when new) who was looking at me while his right hand in the pocket of his trousers. Was there bomb in there? Was he planning to murder me or blast Ahmedabad Railway Station? And then suddenly I realized that there might be someone who had been planning to blast Ahmedabad Railway Station on 10^th of June, 2012. And

coincidentally I am there on that day. They would blast it not because they want their certain demands to be fulfilled but because they lack the sense of belongingness to this world.

And I lacked the sense of belongingness last night at railway station. Almost daily I witness such a nude panorama but still I cannot proof myself from being affected by such nudity. Are stories around me so sadly real or am I so week that I get affected so easily?

Omnipresence Of The Act Called Sex!

Is it that we are not able to control our little citizens from realizing the power of that blissful energy within? Or…are we running from our supreme responsibility to protect our kids? Or…do we want to give them ‘absolute freedom’?

Or should I repent that why on earth was I born so early….am I primitive?

There were endless questions crossing my mind when I came to know that twelve-year-old children will be legally permitted to have non-penetrative sex with children their age, according to a draft Protection of Children from Sexual Offences Bill, 2010.

Universally speaking…the law is surely going to make Facebook lose its number one rank on international front, as far as entertainment is concerned!!!


Children under the age group of 12 to 14 are already getting exposed to the world of sexual ecstasy through various means of communication like our glamorous television, infinitely expanding World Wide Web, the entire cell network…and the list is always going to expand. Under what impression are we spending our lives? Aren’t we aware about the fact that our kids are already exposed to the intoxicating idea of losing virginity! Does this bill make any difference to the lives of our kids? Weren’t they already engaged in some sort of sexual activity before our lords legally permitted them to do it all?

There is an old saying, “Anything which reaches its extreme, becomes lethal”. So true it is!!!! Those kids who were already floating into their world of fantasy for opposite sex are now told to float freely and endlessly.

I don’t know why…but the word called ‘children’ written in the legal statement about their allowance in non-penetrative sex seems to be ethereal and superfluous when the subject is sex.

We are in a country where just the very screen presence of an object called cigarette undergoes various stages of censor check! We are in a country where the daily-life-word called FUCK is never given a respectable consent to be pronounced in public or on screen! Suddenly, we enter into the SEX Age!!! The age where penetration becomes celebration at any age…the age where a child is provoked to bear another child…God Forbid, if this happens! With the ever-rising statistics of child abuse, this law is simply a catalyst for the same with improved efficiency and repute because it is a lawful act…as of now! 

And then we could imagine wild things happening around us. Today, children amuse themselves through the vast array of junk food, Facebook, Bollywood and the list is quite seriously growing…but once our little kids get exposed to this ridiculously beautiful line of law, the entire world of words written above will be surely replaced by just one word…SEX.

Isn’t it scaringly weird…and that too when whatever I am thinking is quite decent according to my knowledge. What all could happen is beyond your and my reach!

Certainly, if such laws are passed and if they reach every home and bed, they must be exploited to the fullest. I know … I shouldn’t be saying it all, but there is a line by Abraham Lincoln which forces me to say it, “The best way to get a bad law repealed is to enforce it strictly”. Unfortunately true!

Or … should I say that … “Our age old law is growing, it is crossing its beautiful age of adolescence and therefore is able to understand all other adolescents in our country”…or …is it that “law is blind, that it cannot understand the state of the mind of a 12 to 14 years age”. Then, in that case, I have grown up in this world hearing about the blindness of two things; law and love, both of which are fundamental for the existence of Homo sapiens. Now, only the two blind entities can understand the state of each other. “Law has helped us ‘make love’ at almost any age”. True! This is what I can gracefully or crudely conclude.

There are many things existing in our world which would be of no use, once this law is applied. What sense does the film rating would make…will it matter if the film is “U” rated or “A” rated? Will it matter whether our children play with Barbie dolls or pocket-sized SUVs or various sex toys? Will it matter if our kids force their company on us when we go for getting a pack of condoms?

I think, our respected legal system is quite aware or rather educated about the mighty gap between non-penetrative and penetrative sex…right, or they have suddenly become sensitive about developing the ability of “self-control” in little people who are still busy in their fight for ….like who gets a bigger piece of Dairy Milk or who gets a brighter balloon! Now suddenly they will fight for something else which is bigger in size and now balloon will be something else for these kids…you getting me, right!

The truth is that there are certain things which cannot be ruled over.  Sexual energy cannot be easily controlled. It is pure indulgence. Afterall, how low can we go than the age of 12…??? It is not even a teenage. I am sorry to say but to me, it seems as if Our Law wants to get rid of any kind of responsibility and therefore it has set the age as low as 12, keeping no chance to get lower than this. Who had sex and when and where and at what age is nobody’s business. Let’s leave it on individuals and their parents. Rather, we should concentrate on sex education which must be made mandatory since the age of 12. There are various other subjects which demand more focus like rape, eve teasing, sex without consensus….list goes on….

For me, it’s ridiculous to set the age for non-penetrative sex. Who knows, if some day we get up in the morning just in order to read newspaper with the matter written as, “twelve-year-old children will be legally permitted to have penetrative sex with children their age, according to a draft Protection of Children from Sexual Offences Bill.”